Not every instance of screaming children is one of Frightened, Screaming Children.
Sometimes you have to know how to handle a The Stubborn Child.
I am diametrically opposed to forcing children to do swimming lessons. Previously I have written a whole series on it (mentioned above) and talked about a variety of techniques to deal with it.
I talk about one technique were I will just walk up and down with the child comforting them for as long as it takes. But I am only ever likely to do that in a drastic instance were for example; the parent has asked me to take the child or even handed them to me and walked off; both as and act of last resort and enormous trust of me. These are cases were, as one teacher described it to me:"they ain't going to cry anymore"(than they are).
Sometimes however a teacher does need to press the issue with a child and I am not against that but the teacher has to be very comfortable with a child laying on their back screaming at you and be sure that you are not hurting or making the child fearful or setting the child back in anyway. You have to be detached and confident in what you are doing to do this.
Let me be clear here, I am not talking about about a child that is new to the water and is terrified. I am talking about dealing with a child the is mealy being stubborn.
I know of no way to teach this except to say, consult with the parent. Unfortunately the parent isn't always correct in their assessment and the only other alternative is a good professional team of experienced swim teachers to help you.
Even with all that, you are better off taking a long time and using every skill you have to talk the child into doing what they need to do.
Having said that and provided that you are convinced that there is no other avenue left to you; other than giving up, here are some ways that I have found work for getting a stubborn child to lay on their back in swimming lessons.
Getting their ears wet or laying on their back for instance.
Be absolutely sure the is no medical condition that would be exacerbated by them getting their ears (or whatever skill you are trying to teach) wet.
Be absolutely sure the parent is OK with this. A parents to hands you their child and says here you do it is a pretty good signal that the parent is OK with it but you still have to watch the parent to make sure they are not stressed. Sometimes they are just saying they are OK with it.
I am talking here about where you have tried for weeks using all the techniques you know to convince the child that they need to get their ears wet to no avail.
If you are at that point you need to be prepared for a very gradual, minor step by minor step, approach.
- Step 1: wet the back of the child's ears
- Step 2: a single drop in the child's ear
- Step 3: a single drop of water in each ear
- Step 4: gently lay the child back on your shoulder
- Step 5: gently lay the child back on your shoulder until the child's ears tough the water
- Step 6: gently lay the child back on your shoulder until the child's ears are in the water
- Step 7: move the child away from your shoulder
- Step 8: move the child further away from your shoulder
- Step 9: move the child even further away from your shoulder
- Step 10: full float
Each step will only be momentary and the child has to be comforted and and made calm immediately after. It must NOT be prolonged. And you Must not continue to the next step until the child is comfortable with the step you are up to.
Note how very gradual the steps are. You may find that you have to repeat each step over and over until the child is comfortable with it or you may find that after the first lesson with the first step everything is fine the rest of the way. But you must not go beyond the point where the child becomes resistant. In fact you should only continue if there does appear to be progress (i.e. if the child is calm when you repeat the step you are up to.
Stop! if the child gives the impression they are becoming fearful.
If a teacher or parent is not comfortable with any of this they should not force the issue with a child. your approach needs now to be even longer by finding thing the child will co-operate with and building on them. It's not as if you can leave a child near water unsupervised no matter how comfortable they are in it.